A Surrogate’s Tale

It’s common practice around the world, and around since ancient times, but when a woman offers to bear a child for another, it still gets you right in the feels.

We’re talking a nine-month favour, that then goes on to last a lifetime.

And beyond.

For Greystones mother-of-four Becky Loftus Dore, bearing a child for a friend who was unable to conceive immediately felt like one of the most natural things in the world. Which might just explain why Becky is now a surrogacy coach.

As she prepares to go on The Late Late Show tonight, Becky took time out today to describe how she came to give birth eight months ago to someone else’s baby…

Looking back now, hard to believe how an innocent conversation took place two years ago, where I offered to carry my good friend’s baby.
Being a surrogate wasn’t a difficult thing to offer for me. Having faced my own fertility issues in the past I knew the pain that came with wanting a child but facing problems. It all happended very organically between myself and my friends. At the birth, we all worried how my emotions and hormones would contribute to giving birth, and the baby going to his family – surprisingly, and with great relief, I felt no connection, and was just filled with joy watching the newly-formed family bond.

And, of course, relief of no night feeds for me.

Based on my experience with being a surrogate, I am now a surrogacy coach, and have a free information event for couples and potential surrogates in February in the Hodson Bay Hotel.

You can find out more about surrogacy in Ireland here, and contact Becky director on  becky.loftus@gmail.com for any information.